Most guys, when trying to impress a girl, will try to do something called “demonstrate value,” or DV. When most folks DV, they try to show off through stories, presupposed skills, and other ways to try to get the girl thinking, “Wow, this guy is really impressive, I really like him!”
Sometimes this works, sometimes it doesn’t. For example, you think the fact that you’re a pilot and you go skydiving in your spare time is something to behold. She may be totally bored with that.
So how do you increase your odds? Easy. All you’ve got to do is push her buttons.
No, not THOSE buttons! (At least not yet, anyway.)
I’m talking about her criteria. Things that are important to her. Things that make her think those special thoughts and go off in her mind imagining all those wonderful feelings. How do you create those? Do you walk up and command her in your authoritative voice to start thinking wonderful thoughts? Well, maybe if you’d like to see the inside of a jail cell.
Just start talking to her about anything. Find out what she likes. Ask her more follow up questions to get her talking more and more about her interests and experiences. Look for what are called “trance words.” These are usually descriptive, kind of vague words, that she’ll say with special emotional impact.
All you’ve got to do is remember what those words are, and feed them back to her later on. The reason this works so well is that when she says those words, she’s imagining (usually subconsciously) all kinds of wonderful feelings. Instead of getting her to describe those feelings, just pay attention to those words.
Then later on, when you say those words, as similarly as she said them, she’ll automatically (and again, unconsciously) recall those good feelings.
And guess what? Since you’re the one saying those words, she’ll start to associate those feelings with you!
Now, you’ve got to be a big subtle with this. You can’t just walk up to an attractive woman and ask her to start describing her most exciting experience from her childhood. You’ve got to break the ice somehow, and just start talking conversationally about something. Then just look for clues within the conversation that you can naturally lead to more interesting topics.
You’ll find that once you try this out, it’s a lot easier than it sounds. Obviously, the more you practice this, the better you’ll get at it. Before long, you’ll be able to easily fire up any girl’s imagination that you’d like!
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