Now after watching the series LOST for a few seasons I got to love the way a guy named Sawyer related with a woman named Kate. Sawyer is classic bad boy figure. You know he is arrogant, self centered, proud and “completely wrong” for her but Kate still loves him to death and cannot help but want to be around him.
And like every other guy you are probably asking yourself, “What The H***? Why do women like bad boys?”
Well for the longest time ever, that answer remained a mystery to me. I simply decided that all girls are crazy and/or emotionally blind to the truth about “those guys”.
But I finally figure it out! It took a while but I really did get the answer and here is the secret to this illogical attraction… The secret is the unique mindset bad boys have and the unique interaction they present to women. In simple terms, they DARE to talk and treat women like no one else does.
Now most of us men learnt our female interaction lessons from mommy. She advised you on how to talk to girls and how to treat them right and these lessons probably sounded like this:
“Always be polite and nice to girls.”
“Do not say mean things to girls because you will make them unhappy.”
“Always be a good boy and a perfect gentleman.”
Well guess what… that mindset does not work and most of the time: “Good Guys Finish Last!”
Why? Because unlike you, bad boy live by a different code, a completely different mindset when it come to social and intimate relations with women!
And that mindset is centered on one primary factor: CONFIDENCE.
Note that bad boys have a unique level of Confidence about them that simply seems to attract women like honey to a bee. They carry themselves in a manner that shows that they are comfortable being who they are and the thing about this type of confidence is that its pleasantly attractive to women.
Now the funny thing is that this kind of confidence is usually repulsive to most men who fail to understand the appeal behind it and fail to appreciate the great confidence behind it. In other words, if you hate their level of confidence its because you feel threatened by it.
Why? Because you lack high self esteem and confidence in yourself and your game. Sad but true! Truly confident and self assured people are able to be indifferent about the attitudes and opinions of others and they therefore never feel threatened by other alpha males.
So what effect does the bad boy confidence have in the way you relate to women? Well, one result is that you will be able to challenge girls on what they say.
Let me explain…
Most interactions between men and women are very predictable from her view point and it usually goes like this:
Man nervously approaches woman he likes…
He starts a conversation with her with either a pick-up line or an obvious compliment on her appearance…
He then tries to impress her by being nice and polite…
He then realizes that his game is not working so he tries to keep her attention by doing all manner of things for her… (Like treating her to drinks and meals, buying her gifts, etc)
In the end, he only manages to bore the life out of her and cannot understand why.” After all he did everything his mom told him to;)
Now lets look at what a “bad boy” would have done: He confidently walks up to her and says something to simply catch her attention and start a conversation… (it could be the corniest line ever but the confidence in his posture, tone of voice and smile is what makes it work)
She likes his confidence and engages him in conversation to test what he has to offer…
He is cocky and funny and does not shy aware from teasing her or call her out on what she says… He genuinely gives the feel that he could care less if she decided to walk off…
She is surprised yet attracted by his nonchalant attitude and confidence… In the end, she feels a weird attraction for this guy she just met… now guess who is definitely getting a date with her?:)
Hopefully you are beginning to see the importance of confidence in the “bad boy” persona and why women love it so much!
So once you learn to OVERCOME fear and insecurities and finally gain great self confidence will you never be able to interact with women in a way that creates almost instant attraction. Women like a challenge just like men do and if you are able to create that challenge through confidences and a playfully nature then attraction be created. And remember: “Attraction Is Not A Choice.”
Now once more, the reason that bad boys attract women is because they treat women in a way that most men just do not have the courage to and confidence is the key.
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